Finding the perfect partner might be one of the most tricky challenges of our lives. We might have a lot of near “hit and misses” before we get to the finish line and this can sometimes feel disheartening.
The journey of searching for the right partner can be tiring and we can very easily begin to lose hope.
But often that is a good thing.
Really?
Yes, really. Here is our short list of the best things you can do to find your perfect partner and number one starts with:
Don’t look
When we search too hard for something we very often push it further away. When you want to find your perfect partner almost desperately and you are looking and searching all the time, your pushy and worried vibes very often push them away and stop anything from happening naturally.
All the best relationships happen when you aren’t looking and you are simply happy to be yourself and live your own life.
Only when you can meet your own needs can you meet the needs of anyone else, and if you are out desperately looking for a partner then this would suggest you can’t meet your own needs just yet.
Try and relax and take some time off from looking for your perfect partner.
Spend time focusing on yourself and bettering yourself so that one day you can be the perfect partner for someone else, and everything should fall into place any time soon.
Be authentic
The worst thing we can do in dating is be fake or try and present a different version of ourselves to other people. For two reasons, 1) we can’t keep this up forever and the facade will eventually fade, leading to disappointment and strained relationships, and 2) we won’t find the right person for us if we aren’t truly being us either.
Not being ourselves pushes the right person further and further away from us and take us longer to find them.
We need to learn to like ourselves and truly be ourselves before we look for a partner. If we can’t do that, it would be a big sign that we aren’t ready yet and that’s why it isn’t happening for us yet.
Have good boundaries
If we want to find the perfect partner, we need to also be looking for the perfect relationship. And the perfect relationship has respect and good boundaries.
If we are out in the dating world and we let everyone else walk all over us and disrespect our boundaries, what message does that send to potential partners?
Not a good one.
If we don’t respect ourselves, our time, and energy, then no one else will and we could easily find ourselves in a poor relationship with a partner that definitely isn’t right for us.
What you will find is that how you treat yourself is usually how others treat you, and if you want a “perfect” partner, you need to be the perfect partner to yourself first.
Once you do this, the rest will come along, believe me.
